Stands up regardless if there are any women sitting down as ladies. At least that is how it is according to commenter Jo, who left the following on an older post:
I love your site and you are right, but I am so sick of people in general, even women, continuously blaming women and defending/excusing men. As generalizing women has become a commonly acceptable thing, I shall also generalize men for asecond. Men and boys have such bitterness toward the female gender with little reason to be for the most part- expecting sex and such then pouting/throwing a tantrum when they dont get it. Feminism helped this happen but I myself as a female did nothing to deserve the hatred my gender gets. when will people wake up and realize feminists of then and now are not holding a gun to the head of every American man and forcing them to succumb to their demands? Nope, men are not perfect either, nor are they helpless. Men need to stand up and be gentlemen regardless if there are any women sitting down as ladies- in fact, that is exactly what a real gentlemen does. some women who are like this do indeed need to quit it, but many of us are not like that and we deserve respect and sympathy as men get too. Nothing’s stopping that but society’s pet hobby of dumping failure and blame onto women, then shouting self righteously when women do exactly that to men.
I can’t let such a gem of modern woman logic go unnoticed. So, while I am sure Jo probably has good intentions, I have to call out her remarks on what makes a man a gentleman, which as it boils down is a man who overlooks holding women to any standards.
What Jo needs to learn and it is perhaps one of the most depressing lessons is it doesn’t matter if you personally did nothing to contribute to feminism, man’s collective lost faith in the goodness of women is just too strong and it doesn’t matter how special or how “not like that” you think you are. To gain a husband these days a woman has to prove she is an asset and not a liability. She has to have a value far above rubies, not a value of cubic zirconia; which is shiny and alluring on the outside but at its core is fake.
Also, remember it was women who first turned their back on men. Deeming the protection of patriarchy to be oppressive and insisting that they, as women, can not only make their own way, but make it better. Men in their chivalry granted women the
right privilege to vote and from there the demands never ended. Those were the real gentlemen (by Jo’s definition), who gave women the distinguished privilege to vote despite women acting like crazed animals in their protests. Men stepped up and yielded, while women made fools of themselves. An important lesson was learned here for the sisterhood–create a scene, be provocative and get what you want (think slutwalks-they wanted attention and they got it). Men have thus learned if you give a woman an inch, they take a mile. And women are free to take a mile all they want these days, just not at the expense of men or via tax dollars paid by men.
To be able to honestly say you are “not like that”, you have to take some serious steps in speaking against the sisterhood and Team Women and stomping on feminism everywhere you see it, no matter how many friends or personal gains you lose. If you are truly anti-feminism, most people aren’t going to like you and in this age when likeability is valued more than standing values, most will fail at fighting feminism. I am by no means a perfect example and have commented before that I believe all women “are like that” (myself included) because being “like that” is only one lapse of judgment away. We are all capable of sin and hence all sinners. Women are all capable of being “like that” and hence they are all “like that”. To not be aware and constantly grounded in this ugly truth, is to open the door for unhealthy airs about yourself.
I will also reiterate that this blog is not about equality. My focus is not to write 10 posts about women and then 10 posts about men. The focus is about unmasking feminism and not surprisingly it is usually the women that are predominantly behind feminism. I do hold that men and women are both equal sinners and both fall woefully short of God’s glory. However, this postmodern fallen world, does not see it that way. In much of modern Christianity and secularism, the woman gets a pass. Especially as it relates to her behavior and morals. As Jo said, it doesn’t matter if women are ladies, men are suppose to be gentlemen-regardless. This very broad philosophy leaves an open door to what women can get away with it. “It doesn’t matter if women sleep around, a true gentleman should still step up and marry her.” “It doesn’t matter if I submit to my husband as he is suppose to be a gentleman”.
anyway, I hope you dont think I’m a feminazi myself- I’m very much against that! I was so pleased to find your blog and was so encouraged by it (I’m 21, a Christian, and possibly a future homemaker BTW). however, I’d just enjoy seeing more posts about men- they also need to know what to do because, again, men arent perfect and they sure arent the only victims here.
I suppose she wants to see more posts about how men should bow before women, regardless of women’s behavior. Not going to happen. Are women still ladies regardless if men have no morals, make bad choices, live a wild life? No, in fact, in the name of equality and in doing everything men do they too have loosened their morals and embrace the permissive modern life. Rather than be the better example, women devalued themselves to the worst of men.
Not sure why Jo felt the need to tell me she is a Christian with homemaker inclinations. It is almost as if that is to make me gloss over her crazy statement about gentlemen. You know, throw in those parts so I automatically assume she can’t possibly be “like that” for she is a good Christian girl.